A GUIDE: HOW TO STOP FIGHTING WITH YOUR PARTNER

Are you sick of hearing the same complaints over and again? Tired of ruining family meals and gatherings because your significant other chooses to act like a jerk? Perhaps you might try these strategies to help you avoid conflicts.

BEGIN WITH YOUR MISTAKE.
Arguments that reoccur constitute a pattern. It’s easy to focus on your partner’s flaws and fail to notice how distant you’ve gotten. Before you start pointing fingers, consider whether you’ve always been fair and just. More frequently than not, you’ll discover that you need to make some adjustments. These flaws will help you better grasp your partner’s point of view.

CREATE ARGUMENT BOUNDARIES
The difference between disagreements that destroy a relationship and those that strengthen it is the presence of safe, healthy limits.

There are some things you should never do, no matter how upset you are. You should not, for example, beat your spouse or bring up particularly sensitive themes.

DO NOT BE ON DEFENSIVE.

Allow for vulnerability while negotiating with your spouse. Don’t be hesitant to confess that you were mistaken about whatever you thought before the fight.

Staying on the defensive and portraying yourself as never being fully incorrect will not help your relationship improve.

Talk to your spouse about setting boundaries within fights, such as keeping your family out of it, smashing doors, breaking crockery, and so on.

CHECK TO SEE IF YOU’RE TRANSFERRING AGGRESSION
Before approaching your partner, go through your day and look for any triggers that made you furious. Many times, you’re not genuinely furious with them; you’ve just had a bad day at work.

BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR PHRASING AND TONE.
Maybe it’s not what you’re saying, but how you’re expressing it. If you still appreciate your spouse, attempt to correct them constructively rather than condescendingly.